Careless, Then Whispering Regret

Hello Guys,

Semoga tulisan ini dapat memeluk kesalahan kita terhadap orang yang kita cintai.

Teman-teman, pasti sering dengar intro lagu George Michael – Careless Whisper. Dulu, waktu kita kecil, kita hanya tahu alunan trompet (atau saxophone, ya?) yang sangat indah. Namun, ketika kita dewasa, kita memahami liriknya—dan hancur pelan-pelan di dalamnya.

Apakah teman-teman pernah melakukan kesalahan dan pengkhianatan?

Jika pernah, kita sudah seharusnya merasa bersalah dan bertobat.

Saat ini, saya merasakan bersalah karena telah mengkhianati kepercayaan sahabat saya, Tuan. Kami sudah bersepakat bahwa tidak ada teman laki-laki lain, tapi saya tetap menghadirkan teman laki-laki lain karena saya ingin mengetahui ambang batas amarahnya. Saya takut dengan kekerasan, tapi betapa bodohnya saya yang justru mengkhianati kepercayaannya.

Saat itu, saya merasa tidak bersalah karena, toh, kita semua berteman. Hal yang luput dari kesadaran saya ialah: saya sudah berjanji untuk tidak menghadirkan teman laki-laki lain. Oleh sebab itu, saat saya mendengar lagu ini, saya merasa terpuruk. Karena saya menyia-nyiakan kesempatan yang telah ia beri pada saya. Hal ini yang membuat saya careless.

I'm never gonna dance again
Guilty feet have got no rhythm
Though it's easy to pretend
I know you're not a fool
I should have known better than to cheat a friend
And waste the chance that I'd been given
So I'm never gonna dance again
The way I danced with you, oh

Saya menyadari bahwa tidak ada hal yang bisa menghapus kesalahan. Saya pun tidak pernah berdoa agar waktu bisa diputar. Namun, saya memutuskan untuk cut off beberapa pertemanan dengan para lelaki. Saya membatasi beberapa teman laki-laki. Saya memutuskan untuk selibat, apabila dia tidak kembali lagi. Karena, menurut penilaian saya atas pengalaman tersebut, janji pertemanan saja tidak bisa saya penuhi—apalagi janji perkawinan.

Saya harap keputusan ini mampu menebus diri saya sendiri, meskipun Kristus-lah yang sesungguhnya menebus saya.

Namun, Tuhan hadir dalam hubungan ini. Saya dikasih kesempatan tiga kali untuk memperbaiki hubungan ini olehnya—dan gagal semua. Saya kalah dengan luka saya sendiri. Dia pun terluka dengan lukanya sendiri.

Tapi saya mengernyitkan dahi ketika mendengar lirik outro-nya:

(Now that you're gone)
Was what I did so wrong, so wrong
That you had to leave me alone?

Pencipta lagu masih mempertanyakan: sebegitu besarkah kesalahannya, sehingga dia ditinggalkan? Padahal, dia sudah berbuat curang.

Mengapa ya... kami dipertemukan hanya untuk saling melukai?


Have a nice day!

Hello Guys,

I hope this writing can embrace the mistakes we've made toward those we love.

Friends, you must be familiar with the intro of George Michael – Careless Whisper. Back when we were kids, we only knew the beautiful sound of the trumpet (or was it saxophone?). But as we grow older, we start to understand the lyrics—and slowly fall apart inside.

Have you ever made a mistake or betrayed someone?

If you have, then we should truly feel guilty and repent.

Right now, I feel guilty because I betrayed the trust of my close friend, Tuan. We had an agreement: no other male friends. But I still brought other male friends into the picture—because I wanted to test the limits of his anger. I was afraid of violence, yet how foolish of me to betray his trust like that.

At the time, I didn’t feel guilty, because, well, we were all just friends. But what I failed to realize was that I had made a promise—not to bring other men into our space. That’s why, when I heard this song again, I felt crushed. Because I had wasted the chance he had given me. That’s what made me careless.

I'm never gonna dance again
Guilty feet have got no rhythm
Though it's easy to pretend
I know you're not a fool
I should have known better than to cheat a friend
And waste the chance that I'd been given
So I'm never gonna dance again
The way I danced with you, oh

I realized that nothing can erase what I’ve done. I never even prayed for time to rewind. But, I decided to cut off some friendships with men. I've set boundaries with a few male friends.. I chose to stay celibate, in case he never comes back—because based on this experience, if I can’t keep a friendship promise, how could I ever keep a marriage vow?

I hope this decision helps redeem myself—although Christ is the one who truly redeems me.

Still, God was present in this relationship. He gave me three chances to fix it—and I failed all three. I lost to my own wounds. He was wounded by his own, too.

But I frowned when I heard the outro lyrics:

(Now that you're gone)
Was what I did so wrong, so wrong
That you had to leave me alone?

The songwriter still questions: Was my mistake that terrible, that you had to leave me? Even though he had already cheated.

Why were we brought together... only to hurt each other?

Have a nice day!